The centuries’ old proverb derived from the works of William Horman - manners maketh man - translated simply states that manners are essential to humanity.
In a world that often feels fast-paced and chaotic, manners are worthy of our time, effort and attention. While such may appear as outdated formalities, manners play a crucial role in creating respectful and harmonious interactions. Our social behaviours can make people feel valued or diminish their sense of worth. From the simplest “please” and “thank you” to more complex social behaviours, manners can shape our relationships, influence how we are perceived and ultimately affect the social fabric of our communities.
Why do manners matter in schools?
Promoting Positive Learning Environments: When we actively listen, ask thoughtful questions and consider others’ points of view, we are best positioned to create productive spaces where learning thrives.
Promoting Positive Relationships: When we treat others with kindness and respect, we promote cooperation which helps to build and maintain effective relationships and a strong sense of belonging in our school community.
Promoting Positive Character: When we consistently demonstrate manners, we are seen as responsible, trustworthy and compassionate. Manners teach us self-discipline and accountability, qualities that contribute to our personal growth.
Manners are a set of behaviours that reflect politeness, respect and consideration for others. They include simple acts like shaking hands upon meeting, greeting others with a smile, listening attentively when someone is speaking, saying “pardon” when you are seeking clarification or “excuse me” when we are seeking attention and offering help to those in need.
In schools, manners also encompass actions such as following rules, arriving to class on time, being patient and considerate, raising a hand before speaking in class, respecting the personal space of others, taking turns and using effective communication.
Of course, as with any skill, our boys need us to explicitly teach them what to do, our boys need us to model how to and our boys need us to share in conversation with them about why manners benefit us as individuals and that of our fellow humankind.
Manners matter because they have the power to shape our world for the better.
Anja-Lee Caldwell
Junior School Curriculum Leader